Finding Purpose in Singleness: A Grace-Filled Approach to Valentine’s Day

Valentine’s Day can sting when you feel alone. But in Christ, even loneliness becomes a space for connection, care, and quiet trust in God’s deep love.

It’s mid-winter and Valentine’s Day is drawing near. For some, what is intended to be a bright celebration of love in a bleak time of year, can instead be a jarring reminder of singleness and loneliness.

Loneliness, while painful, is an opportunity to exercise both self-care and care for others.

Whether you love or hate Valentine’s Day, consider this holiday an opportunity to “rejoice with those who rejoice and weep with those who weep” - Romans 12:15.

Here are some practical ways we can care for ourselves and for others during this season: 

Show sensitivity and humility

in celebration, reflecting Jesus’s compassion for the widow, the orphan, and the outcasts.

Avoid media

that portrays romance if it stirs up jealousy or resentment. Consider hosting a comedy movie night with friends or neighbors. 

Lament loneliness

to the Lord; he knows and understands this feeling too well. Whether we consider Peter’s betrayal of Jesus on the night of his crucifixion, Jesus’s desperate, lonely prayers in the Garden of Gethsemane before his death, or even Jesus’s singleness, Jesus chose to be alone for our sake. 

Write a note

of appreciation or deliver a sweet treat to a single friend, neighbor, or coworker.  

Share a meal with someone else who feels lonely. Many of us are, even those who are married!

A truth to consider:

“God knows me more than I know myself. God loves me more than I love myself. God is more committed to my ultimate joy than I am. So I can trust him.” – Sam Allberry, 7 Myths about Singleness

Lily Martin has been a part of the In Him Family for 1.5 years. She began as an intern and is now a staff member. Lily brings a unique blend of biblical wisdom and contemporary psychological principles to her counseling practice. With experience in ministry and clinical Christian counseling, she is passionate about helping clients navigate life’s challenges as individuals made in the image of God.

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