Quietness

Life is noisy.  My ears are bombarded by the noise of the television, radio, traffic, and other uninvited disturbances.  When I reflect upon this aspect of my life, I realize that I am the one who oftentimes chooses noise over quiet. Noise can be used as a distraction.  One can avoid self-reflection when your attention is directed outside of self.  When I choose to limit self-awareness, I don't have to change.  I just respond to the noise and become a victim of external forces. In the book...
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Acceptance

As a middle-aged man, I am confronted by ever growing limitations and loss.  Granted, I don't experience these as my elderly mom does, but I certainly don't have delusions of saving the world anymore and I am more likely to grumble about the current state of the world or my latest ailment.  One could say that I've earned the right to grumble, because of the degree of pain and suffering I have experienced by virtue of being a sinful man living in a fallen world.  The truth of the matter is that m...
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Identity

I believe we make choices in life that are congruent with how we self-identify.  The problem is that we don't pause our busy lives long enough to reflect on what we are thinking and feeling.  Therefore, it's easy to become a victim of circumstances or the opinions of others. Taking responsibility for our choices is obviously a scary proposition.  Blaming others seems as natural to humans as breathing.  That is only part of the issue, though.  Looking at the reason we make choices places us at...
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Identity

Do you ever look in the mirror and wonder who you really are?  There are a couple of life stages in which that is developmentally normal.  I tend to think that we find out more about ourselves during those somewhat turbulent times.  The core of who we are seems to push to the front in crises.  Our fears become more palatable and our strengths more evident.  How we see ourselves before God can be a little more scary and elusive, though. Fundamentally, I struggle with believing that God is good...
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